INTJ makes up the smallest percentage of the population’s personality types


Yep, I'm an INTJ  

More about INTJs, at least you can’t say that I didn’t tell you 🙂

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  1. Daryl Boman says:

    As an INTJ  I am very happy about that!

    I was pleasantly surprised that being a computer programmer is the perfect job for my type.

    One drawback to being such a low percentage personality type, is that people rarely, unless very educated and intelligent, understand us INTJ’s. 😉

    Are you also one of us INTJ’s?

  2. Daryl Boman says:

    My favorite explanation for INTJ is here:

    http://scifi.about.com/library/weekly/aa080201bb.htm

    I can’t figure out if I’m an ex-borg, a vulcan, or bald Starship Captain?  😉

  3. llangit says:

    the percentage of INTJ women in < .005% – why me? oh well, why not?

    any other INTJ’s reading my blog out there?

  4. Brian says:

    I just read your blog, and am an INTJ. Fascinating stuff out there. I kinda wondered if INTJ’s tried to find each other, just to feel connected to someone or not. Seems that at least a few of them do.

  5. Raquel says:

    I’m an INTJ….  Didn’t know it was rare….

  6. littlecactus says:

    I’m an infj i thought we were the smallest. It’s still consistent enough at least until we get a much broader group. Also it’s a good idea to take this multiple times to make sure you match.

  7. bryn says:

    i am an intj.  and i am the only one in my whole school as far as i know. everyone else is just another personality who doe’snt get me. it makes one feel very closed in and closed off.

  8. Mari says:

    im INTJ !

    wow we must be pretty unique

  9. AJ says:

    I’m an INTJ too!

    Proud to be INTJ!! 😀

  10. Shane says:

    Wow!  I didn’t know INTJ was so rare.

    I can’t decide if it it’s a gift, or a curse 😉

  11. emma says:

    yes! it feels like a curse! I feel nobody understand me at all and I have trouble finding a career that suits me

  12. Bill says:

    Why do you all enjoy being INTJ’s??? I am one, and it makes me very depressed. I want to socialize and meet new people, but they do not understand me, nor I them.

  13. Cori says:

    I, also, am an INTJ… I’ve heard stuff about INFJ’s being the smallest personality group, but actually it seems to make more sense that we’re the rarest, just based on the way the world looks from up here on my Rational perch. 😉

    I consider my own ability to think clearly and coolly without any bias or leaning one of my greatest traits, if I do say so myself.  It’s a boon for me.  I tend to fall into the "proud skeptic until proven wrong" category.

  14. Val says:

    I’m an INTJ as well + an Aries + a women = one rare but massive headache 😛

    I’m doing a self-assessment report for school and have found myself spending more time on the web then writing my actual report.  I found it interesting that some of my traits (Aries/ INTJ) have overlapped.

    Has anybody else found certain similarities?

  15. Kovlin says:

    I am also an INTJ/Aries.  It is interesting how they overlap.  I have noticed that myself this year.  I am rather fortunate to have a branch manager who is also INTJ.  It helps tremendously in the business world with support.

  16. classik67 says:

    Has anyone else compared INTJ to their Chinese Horoscope? I am a Fire Dragon and found a lot of similarities. Check it out.

  17. Jay says:

    I’m an INTJ, Aries and woman. It’s a blessing and a curse. I think INTJ people should just stick together. At least we understand each other!

  18. Michelle says:

    Hmmm… interesting. Also a INTJ aries woman here.

  19. Doaa says:

    I just discovered i am an INTJ too, now i know why i just can’t connect with people around me , and they just can’t understand me , actually now i know why i am so depressed feeling so lonely with very very few friends

  20. Melissa says:

    why INTJ and aries? why not sagi? I’m sagi. And I feel special. 🙂

    God, no wonder we’re so rare. otherwise we wouldn’t have the problem of the whole not fitting in thing.

    I found out i was INTJ about 3 months ago, but before i found out i always thought that i was the mental/retarded one.

    Guess not.

    Great to hear from other fellow INTJ’s though

  21. llangit says:

    I am INTJ and a LEO – look out world!

    The whole Meyers-Briggs thing has been quite helpful to me.  I am (finally!) in a place where I am satisfied and comfortable.  It took quite awhile though.

    We INTJ’s do need to stick together.  It’s been gratifying to see the response to my blog post.

  22. D says:

    I’m a female INTJ… cancer. I’m fortunate enough to have a INFJ friend to keep around, an INTP father, and INFP sisters… it’s like a whole team of scientists at my disposal. All of us are rare and special in our own ways… but I have to say, I think INTJ is the most badass. 😀

    Oh, yes, and I have also read that INFJs are the rarest types… However, INTJ females are the most rare of anything… Yay! 😀

  23. Robert says:

    Greetings from another planet (I am an older you- Zoomer/Aquarian/former INTJ- now "evolved" into ENTJ)

    Just to let you know- You’re right.  (BTW: Aquarian motto is "I Understand" LOL) We are different- and make a virtue out of it!  Have to.  Noone else "gets it".

    I have learned, usually the hard way, to be more social, open, and to allow myself to be vulnerable- Yikes! say the Vulcans/former Borgs etc.  😉 I KNOW.

    Guess what?  The world didn’t come to an end.  I more than survived.  I grew.  I Chose to Grow me.  (4yr Hons. Psychology major/History minor)  I chose a career of <$$ but more Fulfillment and personal growth in a service org.  (Still using analytical/critical/statistical/computational/organizational/ contingency planning to the max skills, of course! LOL on me! )  

    I am still "self posessed" and self reliant to the nines, but have softened the razor-sharp edge.  I don’t need it to be "in the world but not of it" quite so much.  BTW (old INTJ’s relationship advice)- stop waiting/engineering it for everything to be Perfect conditions/person before you join in with others- I’ve learned that we actually come together in our pain and incompleteness/messiness and gradually grow stronger together- accepting the other’s quirks- as they accept ours!  (Yes Virginia, WE are Not perfect!)  So OK- enough already with the old guy advice.  

    Hang in there- Remember to expand "Gnothi Sei" my old high school motto- which I took to mean Know Yourself, Like Yourself, Be Yourself- and Be All that You can be, and Make a Difference.

    Love and Light,

    Robert in Canada

  24. David S says:

    How does day & year you were born have anything to do with being an INTJ?

  25. minnu says:

    hi just discovered today iam an intj,i was feeling often misunderstood,even people whom i love a lot thinks i dont care for others feelings ,what people have told me most of the time is iam ‘indifferent’.Let me put it more correctly ,yes i like my alone time ,and enjoy solitary moments with nature but that doesnt mean i lack understanding or that i dont like parting etc.But peer pressure or following the common path,even if it is much useless is something i cannot tolerate.also,read somewhere about INTJ some of their best friends are people they did not like at first,but slowly started growing with time !exactly my conditon.I hate to work in dominatng conditions.

  26. Leyla says:

    Wow pretty much INTJs out there. I’m one, too, and female. Since I knew that, everything in my life made sense. I know another girl who’s and INTJ, and I was always wondering why I come along with her so well. It seems like only INTJs understand each other. Unfortunately she lives on the other side of the planet.. why are we so rare???

  27. scorpileo says:

    I am an INTJ with sun in scorpio and moon,asc in leo.. perhaps a positive/negitive union nake this type. my best friend is also an INTJ

  28. kroert says:

    Wow! I just found out that I am an INTJ.  I am female but I already knew that much!  I really wish I had known more about my personality type at a younger age.  It would’ve saved me much ‘thinking’ time!!  I really did think there was something wrong with me.  No one thinks like I do or acts/reacts like I do.  My husband has accused me so many times of not having any empathy…sympathy, yes….but empathy, no.  To me, empathy is just a window that leads to a pity party for someone.  Once that starts, people start to really recognize my ability to solve problems ever so efficiently, and I either have to allow myself to get sucked in or start putting up that invisible wall of distance.  It feels like they literally suck the life and energy right out of me and I have to ‘go to my zone’ in order to re-charge myself.  It is so frustrating that somehow I have gotten to a place that only I can ‘pick me up’.  Inside, my thinking is razor-sharp and I have to put on this soft, sweet ‘person’ to function socially.  My personality doesn’t really match my ‘looks’….until I open my mouth.  I’ve learned how to correct someone’s ‘idea’ about me with my eyes and facial expressions.   I am not cold – rather very misunderstood.  Does anyone else feel like this?  Sometimes I feel like a freak of nature in my own head.  Everyone around me though just thinks I am weirdly smart in an unconventional kind of way, and is either very drawn to me or has the ‘deer in the headlight’ look towards me.  I have researched this for hours lately.  I have even gone to the doctor and had general lab testing done to see if something was just a little ‘off’.  You know, covering all bases.  Everything is normal.  In fact, the only thing that gives me a sense that something is not normal – is that I seem so different than others.  I can’t believe there are people out there that really ‘get me’!!  My results showed INTJ – Rational Mastermind.  Is that the standard INTJ?  Is the Rational Mastermind part any different?  

  29. Laura says:

    INTJ female here, and an Aries too. Though I had to comment on something Bill said…

    "Why do you all enjoy being INTJ’s??? I am one, and it makes me very depressed. I want to socialize and meet new people, but they do not understand me, nor I them."

    If you want to "socialize and meet new people" then you can safely say you arn’t an INTJ. 😛 We’re the hermits of hermits.

  30. Heidi says:

    I also am an INTJ woman and ironically an aries.  I can’t help but to think that the reason we have ended up in such a forum is because of a thirst for knowledge coupled with a love for research and learning.  I have been fascinated for quite some time as far as the reason I am an INTJ and a woman.  My biggest difficulty probably is…where in the world can I find a man.  I know typically that the guys out there love the part where women…well, can be more emotional I guess.  It’s expected of us.  Yes, I do cry, but I tend to look at things a lot more objectively than most.  If someone else cries, I sorta tilt my head and wonder more or less about it, than feel a connection to it.  I can’t help but to think though, that no matter what personality type we are, we are always going to face challenges!  I think that being such a rare INTJ well means…that I am rare!  That is such a beautiful thing!  And being a strong believer in balance also, I like to think that I have the ability to tip the scale because of being that rare.  So yes, I am INTJ, here me roar!  

  31. Kate in Tucson says:

    I am a woman who is also INTJ and Aries. I have tested as an INTJ consistently over the past 15 years. About that time I came to realize that other people just aren’t like me and I have learned to lower my expectations of others (this helps). I am married to a man who considers himself an I/E N F/T J/P … I know pretty rare too but he compliments me perfectly. I admire his ability to Feel and Be Social and Be Impulsive and he acknowledges me for who I am be cause he is a lot like me. We have been married 31 years and while it hasn’t always been a bed of roses at least I have someone who pulls me out of the dumps when I need it. I know that many people consider me cold and aloof. I work hard at getting to know people one at a time and doing everything I can to help people so they see the real me. I work in an environment (religious institution) that is very different from me perhaps their love of people is the reason why I can fit in there. While my mother has never been tested, I think she might also be INTJ along with my three sisters… do you think it might run in families? I love being an INTJ and have found that my ability to problem solve and see the big picture and love of science keep me going. I love the internet because I can expand that knowledge at any time. I agree with those that say it’s great being so different, it makes me feel special. God made each one of us for a purpose and I pray that each of you will find that purpose. I say again… I love being INTJ.

  32. jpark says:

    INTJs are pretty common in the San Francisco Bay Area. I was really lucky to grow up in a place where my personality wasn’t so rare. Now that I’m off at studying on the east coast, I am much more of a minority.

    But yeah, INTJ women looking for similar men would do well to visit the Silicon Valley. 😛

  33. shemy says:

    I am an INTJ as well. Like everyone else people accuse me of being cold and aloof. I’ve always considered myself different from others around me. I am very self directed and I definitely detest control freaks. It is true that I look at things from a logical perspective. I like to look and the big picture, line of the facts, and move forward with things.  Another thing, I know I am rare because when I was a child growing up many people were peer pressured but I never followed crowds. Instead, I was my own leader at least in my mind lol! When I feel like someone is trying to control me, I resist them. In fact, I have never been interested in cheerleaders or follow the leader crowds. Instead, I hung out with students on debate teams or belonged to academic social clubs.

    Actually, I think it’s rather interesting that we are rare! It’s good to know that I’m not the only distant weirdo in the world!!!

  34. TTMP in CT via NY/VA says:

    I am an INTJ, aries, female too :-)!!!! And I find that those three descriptors are an incredible combination that others scoff at or try to destroy because they fail to understand its value. Finding this site full of others just like me helped me feel connected on an intellectual AND social level to an entire group of people for once. I had no idea so many other INTJs wanted to relate to someone or share their thoughts like I did. I am 23 and perhaps this may be a little young to feel so ostracized, but I’m sure I know MAYBE one other INTJ. Everyone thinks I’m without feeling, harsh, and detached but I disagree. It upsets me when men shun me because they think I’m too hard to read when I’m quite direct, objective and honest or think I speak "cryptically" when I know I’m making perfect sense. Males and females alike make me want to scream "Stop and THINK about it!!" I really love how scientifically-minded I am and it’s nice to know that so many other people feel the same. Maybe I’ll never find a man who truly understands me. But knowing that there really are other INTJs out there mulling over the same social issues that I do and coming to the same conclusions makes me feel justified in remaining single.

    I am not a freak, escaped from the traveling freak show, trying to accept my imperfections. I am simply, different, special, and yes, even imperfect…but not for the reasons the majority gives.

    Because I think incessantly and analyze automatically, I can understand others and yet non-INTJs can’t seem to understand me. For this reason, I had considered arresting all attempts to be understood by anyone. It seemed the only way I could remain as I was. But now, after reading your posts, I am seeing the possibilities of relationships a little differently.

    So, I must thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I don’t feel so lonely anymore and less disappointed in others’ logic. I shall try being more patient with the people I encounter. Thank you….

  35. Lara says:

    I’m an INTJ aries female also…. Weird!! I’m 23… and my biggest question is what kind of guy do we need? I’ve come to find that almost every guy I’ve dated has not "challenged" me….

  36. Lisa says:

    As an INTJ Aries female at 40, all I can do is wish you good luck, Lara. I have noticed that most men I have dated do not "challenge" me….some have gone as far as to tell me that I am a little intimidating, although I don’t see it. There appears to be an interesting trend here. It seems that, at least here, that there are a lot of INTJ aries females.

  37. massive cure says:

    I’m an INTJ too and a developer at that 😉

    it’s the best profession I can think of as it all just comes naturally to me. Apparently to many of us.

    Yay!

  38. Massive Cure says:

    oh, btw, I’m a 26 male Libra 😛

  39. jon says:

    Long time INTJ first time poster.  Stats= Libra, red color, dragon w/ fire element, type a personality, and with light dominant and heavy/crazy passive palm lines.  

    The women here indicate difficulties finding guys whom they mesh well with; I have similar experiences finding women whom I mesh with.  I fall into a classic INTJ descriptions with friends and relationships.  I keep telling those in my family, ‘you know that I like you if I do work in your home for you.’

    It can get discouraging in life, consistently getting looks from people who have no grasp on what I am saying/explaining and cannot comprehend the percived morbid (sarcastic) sense of humor.  Getting in trouble at work cause a coworker is ‘intimidated’ by you in a way he/she can’t explain or give examples.

    There is a bright side though.  All my numerous in depth profile explanations indicate INTJ possesors have an uncanny sense of pragmatism.  We are good at what we do and we are also well awares of what we cannot do.  With the pragmatism, there is a point where additional efforts to accomplish a task are subconsciously weighed in an INTJ’s mind against the personal importance of the task at hand.  If the efforts outweigh the importance of the task, the INTJ will begin utilizing the problem solving skills to determine a course of action with minimal efforts to bring said task to a speedy and acceptable end (my motto, minimum effort maximum return).  

    Heaven forbid that the importance of an undertaking transends any amounts of effort; come hell or high water, the INTJ will dispose of any resource (animated or inanimate) at hand untill the final result is equal to or surpasses the previously mentally conceptualized goal.  This pragmatistic streak, I find, can often play out in all facets of my life…..relationships included.

    PS.  Any of you fellow INTJs ever see a list of famous and fictional people who share our personality?  JFK, Robin williams, Susan B. Anthony, Proffesor Moriarty, Hannibal Lector (I got your attention now).  Check it out     http://typelogic.com/intj.html

  40. jane says:

    Holy crap! I agree with this (and quite a few of these posts):

    "Everyone thinks I’m without feeling, harsh, and detached but I disagree. It upsets me when men shun me because they think I’m too hard to read when I’m quite direct, objective and honest or think I speak ‘cryptically’ when I know I’m making perfect sense."

    I’m 22, just graduated from the best college in my field, and am heading to Oxford to pursue a theoretical love. Academia has been the only setting in which I have found adequate percentages of NTs, even INTJs.

    I’ve been called an "ice queen" more than once. I don’t understand why people expect me to bash open my head so they can scoop out my secrets. It isn’t necessary to tell people everything, and when I try to give them a glimpse of my thoughts they accuse me of being cryptic. The males in my life have bluntly told me I’m hard to read. Pssht, I’m through with this relationship nonsense, and will happily crawl into some academic cave for the rest of my life.

  41. martin ENFP says:

    yes the lack of you guys is really frustrating for us enfp’s.

  42. Missi says:

    I too am an INTJ, but I must say that I rather enjoy it.  The deviance is wonderful.

  43. Brenda says:

    I too am an INTJ andalso a Gemini female. It can be rather frustrating at times, but I prefer it.

    Currently argueing with jock type principal about my son’s math placement. He keeps trying to shame me and the like- HA! He pegged me as some other type of woman. (my son had pre alg in 6th grade, and in the new school where we moved pre alg is the advanced class in 7th and they don’t want to let him in or let him go up to algebra- but backward to a basic class???)

    I see him as a public service worker- not in any authority. I just can’t go the passive appeasing route even when I know it will get results faster.

    I also tend to expect people to have an ability to rationalize their emotions and explain them. I mean I know why I feel the way I do- is it so hard for other people?? It has always seemed to me that feelings are reactive to thoughts even if the feelings influence the thoughts.

    I have deep long friendships that do not end. While I do enjoy solitude- I wish I could relate to more people, or atleast people that don’t get self conscious around me.

    Curiously, has anyone else wondered if others take your successes and talents as some kind of insult or rub to them?? They act offended and get defensive.

    Such behavior has alienated me from wanting to help others I don’t know already. Even when I try to play things down.  

    My compassion wants their suffering and frustration to end. So I show them what I have learned and boom- it is like I insulted them.

    Maybe we could start an INTJ forum. Rant relate and maybe even learn to cope better with the majority of people.

    I am so clueless about how to tip toe with others.

  44. NLH says:

    INTJ-ARIES-FEMALE….I’m in a mostly all male profession and very successful at it.  I get called sir at least twice a week.   I have a difficult time with men on personal levels.  I’ve always thought  ‘I want a man stronger than me’.  Well, it hasn’t happened yet.  I filled out the E-Harmony questionnaire and it came back that I was compatable with less than 1% of the population.  Please, I need some advice from someone on how to make this work.  I’m 43.  I was married at 19 for 5 years and have been divorced ever since.  If I’m not to have a sustainable relationship with a man, what’s going to satisfy my need for companionship or my need for satisfaction?  Like the above post, I don’t tip-toe well at all.  I’ve got into the bad habit of ‘dumbing’ myself down on dates.  But then I just think that ‘they don’t have a clue’.  I know, this is terrible, but it’s the truth.  How have you other ladies been successful?  

  45. rara says:

    ha . i am a young intj girl as well. By reading this article, i don’t think that intj’s that rare.

  46. erica says:

    Hi, I’m a INTJ and I only found out recently after taking a very brief test by a professional…. and I have been thinking since that,… AM I THAT RARE??? All along I thought that I’m a very very normal person !! I’m not having any job which is describe being an INTJ ! But, after the test, I’m an INTJ…. that’s very surprising … Should I go for more detailed test? Would that give me a different result?

  47. TTMP says:

    NLH and Brenda… you bring up good points. I posted to this forum a few months ago and check back once in awhile just to get a breath of fresh air. I just started grad school recently and have found that it’s a cozier setting for an INTJ. There are so many more people here that I can satisfactorily relate to. It’s invigorating! I’ve found that I don’t have to dumb myself down with this group of "science buffs." There is no way they are all INTJs, but I can be sure that very few of them are "intimidated" by me or expect me to talk like an airhead. Actually, I find myself working harder to search for the right words in order to communicate with quite a few of them. I relish the challenge of speaking on a higher-register. It is rare being able to express myself exactly how I wish while ensuring that my thoughts are understood. This is great!

    Also, it is nice to be with a group of people who ask me for help and are grateful for it. I am so used to individuals getting upset when they learn about what I can do or have done that I had gotten into the habit of revealing my abilities only when asked. It seems humans feel more comfortable around those who do not strive for much and are capable of only a handful of things. (I personally find that life-style rather boring.) My independence has also been treated like it’s a vice. Several male "friendships" have ended this year without explanation on their part. But I am sure it has much to do with their sudden and inexplicable attraction to me and my refusal to profess "my undying love for them" and to exclaim "how much I need them for I will surely die without their love." Such declarations on my part would have been lies. Does compatibility have little to no value when it comes to relationships? It seems I was the only one who wanted to think things through to avoid making any rash decisions. A poorly made decision results in more (stressful) effort later on than taking the time to make the best decision possible, using what you know, from the very beginning. (I read your post, Jon ;-). Good stuff.)

    But back to my main reasons for posting tonight…

    I had also gotten out of the habit of offering my opinion or any form of advice when asked, no matter how minute and especially for males. The usual reaction was a rebuke. They would get offended, act nervous, get angry like I tried to insult their intelligence, feel intimidated, and even stop talking to me for some time as if I just killed a loved-one.

    The reactions are different with these individuals in the medical field. I assume it’s because they are all thinkers who analyze as naturally as they breathe. Also, many of them are older than me. Age tends to put others more at ease when talking to me. I am still working on figuring out exactly what the are the causes behind the difference in dynamic, so please bear with the vague descriptions. But I must say end with, whatever the reason, I am grateful for this change and am speedily moving away from the chaos of my previous, nonsensical, and uneven relationships. That’s not including my true friends ;-).

    Thank you for the posts everyone!!

  48. Denise says:

    I am an INTJ too. Software Engineer funnily enough. Seems to fit the mould doesn’t it. I am female and cancer. I think that there definately needs to be a club for us rare ones. And yep, nobody around me understands me either. It seems I am the only comfortable one being me. Even my daughter thinks I come from a different planet. My son, well, I think he might be an INTJ too, he just isn’t ready to do the test yet.

  49. Kayla from Arizona says:

    Yay! I’m not the only one.  I’m a female aquarian INTJ.  I’m persuing a degree in architecture.  I rather enjoy this awesome personality despite the social constructions that get in the way sometimes.  Oh, and I, too, have relationship issues.  It used to bother me that I can’t find anyone. I realized, though, that the worst thing to happen is being alone and that’s not so bad, I’m the only one I want to talk to anyways 🙂

  50. Ikari says:

    You forgot the double equal sign in the conditional statement. The single equal sign is an assignment operator.

  51. kaarthika m says:

    Im an INTJ  female too… Dragon and a Cancer. I’ve had guys who told me blatantly that I look absolutely unemotional and hard to get close to. And one thing that pissed me off was when a guy told me that I ‘put on’ an attitude and that I was playing ‘hard to get’.. Grrrr… Its so insane that people around the world have their own conception of how a girl needs to sound and act.. and get shocked at me.. But then I feel its their problem with perception.

  52. Stephan says:

    Well I am a ENFP and I wanted to share my perspective of what I think of INTJ…  We might be on opposite ends of the spectrum in some areas, and yet I have always been attractred to INTJ’s.  They are so damn rare though hard to find especially me being a male…  

    I always was drawn to the seemingly emotionless expression.  The emotion was there it just is not telographed I percieve…  I am easy to read, an open book you could say with emotion so I find it very complementary to see emotional restrain to give way to sound reason and thought…  And when I see a closed book I want to just open it up and read it.  Was always very intriguing to me especially with the combination of brilliance I’ve seen with the INTJ.  

    You all might try to find comfort in finding others who completely share your same lines of reason…  I just try to find comfort that there really are some of you INTJ females out there.  When I do find one again I’ll know that I have someone very rare and will be sure to value them!  Y’all might be mis-understood in general but screw the rest of them they don’t know what they are missing.        

  53. Susan says:

    I have been tested twice by psychologists and did the mini, online test (all this over 21 years), and still an INTJ. I guess the test is valid. 🙂

    I very much value my private time, am definitely a "big picture" person, resentful of control, single, Taurus, and female. Yes, I do feel isolated from time-to-time, but often find my own company to be a lot more stimulating than the company of others. I did think that was weird until I found what what I am. Honestly, now I am so happy to be me. Consider the alternative and then think about how often you are ever truly bored?

    Yes, ladies, a lot of men are intimidated, but it is better to be who you are than try to be someone you’re not.

  54. jose cano says:

    i am an INTJ. didnt kno i was so rare…..its scary….i guess why nbdy around me knows me……..wow…..im glad we have a forum though……INTJ’s ROCK!!!!

  55. "Amy" says:

    INTJ female here. I’m a Scorpio (just turned 28 last week), with Sagittarius Rising and Moon in Gemini. Person’s moon sign = their emotions/how they express themselves emotionally; moon in air sign Gemini = quickly-changing moods, a mercurial mind, focus on communication (haha, I’m a writer, so go figure), superficial attention to emotions, uncomfortable going "deep" with my feelings, ***tendency to intellectualize my feelings, trying to understand how I feel using my mind*** (counter-productive to say the least)–leaves others thinking you’re just COLD. Which I’m not, I’m just being rational and detached. It just LOOKS cold. See.

    I’ve never met anyone in my whole life that thinks the way I do. In fact, I’ve often felt like the way I think is simply alien to 99% of people I’ve ever interacted with. They certainly don’t understand me. Sometimes I just "get" them in an intuitive flash; other times, I just don’t "get" them and we can’t see eye-to-eye. This is SO frustrating when I can see the problems or what needs to be addressed/fixed, and others around me are completely oblivious or can’t "see" what I do. I, however, do not go around volunteering to fix other people’s stuff; I’ll only offer my ideas when asked. I’ve learned over the years that pointing out the obvious to people when they’re not ready to hear the truth is a bad idea. People have gotten pretty mad in the pas when I’ve done it, so I no longer do this anymore.

    Growing up, my parents jokingly said I was frank and had no tact (I thought I was just stating the obvious…) Always a keen observer. 99% of people I’ve met simply don’t engage my mind with the mental "click" necessary to create friendships. Never had many friends, BUT the ones I did have were loyal and true and have remained friends for a long time. Flaky types never seem to stick as they want to make endless superficial small talk and I want to get in deep into whatever we’re talking about. Can’t we just skip the small talk? It’s useless. I see it as a waste of time!

    Others have called me aloof, cold and unemotional. Hardly–I just rarely SHOW my emotions. It takes a great deal to move me to become outwardly distressed (like to cry). Funny though, I’m an empath.

    Oh boy, and the problems with the opposite sex…jeez. Where do I begin? First of all, let me say that many people consider me physically attractive. So I don’ t LOOK like a geek/nerd. I dress well too. I’m pretty, petite, a natural blonde, and I have a great body that’s slim and athletic. THAT’S not the problem. It’s when I open my mouth. As soon as I start talking with others, especially MEN, it’s apparent that I’m much more intelligent than you’d expect. People are often surprised by the smart things I say–which to me, is just my own knowledge–considering that I probably don’t talk to that many people during the course of an evening out. So when I do talk to various men, I start to get a vibe that they are either intimidated/repelled by my intelligence because I’m smarter than them and it makes them scared because  they’re not as smart as me, OR they find my smarts a turn-on. Usually though, what happens is that the young attractive men I meet end up not being as smart as me, and because they’re insecure about being less intelligent than I am, they fade from a conversation with ME to go talk to someone else who’s not as intense and not as smart, the girl who can do small talk all night long. Not me. You see, the insecure guys want to feel like they’re still the kings, so if you, the female, are smarter than them, then they feel threatened and you become less sexually attractive to them, because essentially you have the "upper hand".  They’d rather have "easier prey". Oh, and then the guys who DO find me FASCINATING, they are the men old enough to be my dad. Gee, great. Turns out I can have good conversations with the more mature and adult males. We tend to get on well.  I’m 28. I’m not interested in guys who are almost 60. I want to meet men my own age, thankyouverymuch.

    I’ve only met a FEW guys close to my age who were not threatened/intimidated by my intelligence and where the romantic interest was mutual. Most of the time I’m just relating to people beneath me intellectually. Okayyy, now puh-leez people I am SOO not saying this as an insult to the majority of humanity, I’m just saying that because I’M SO DIFFERENT from *MOST* people, most people who can have regular conversations and easily do the small talk stuff which I detest, they seem to be on some other strata which I’m not on (so I feel left OUT). I’m somewhere else where it feels kinda lonely and there aren’t too many people who are like myself. Like an outsider looking in. So, this place where the majority of people are is not necessarily BETTER, it’s just somewhere else. Not making a judgment here.

  56. Deva says:

    I’m INTJ, scorpion and female.

    "I’ve always thought  ‘I want a man stronger than me’.  Well, it hasn’t happened yet." I totally agree with this argument.  While I’m a high school student and I have never had even a crush on anyone. Also sometimes it feels I can read people like books. And I’m not the only one who have noticed this. That’s why people come to me asking what their crush thinks about her/him and it can be really annoying.

    Unlike the most of INTJs I appear to be cheerful and always smiling. In fact I smile a little too much. That’s because it’s just a mask I’ve learned to wear. Before, I was really lonely and always an outcast. That’s why I keep smiling even it hurts. When I didn’t know I was an INTJ I thought it was because of that smile my emotions were kind of… lacking. Combined to my "mind-reading ability" people often refer me as "scary".

    Even I have some "friends" I don’t think they really understand me. Also my bad habit is that I quikly lose my interest in them after I have deduced what they think.

    "Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect" another argument that I agree. In my case "superiors" means "teachers". I can easily appear arrogant if I think that a person is incompetent and it’s not rare to see me actually bullying these "incompetent" teachers by asking questions about their subject that they do not know the answer etc. In contrary if I find a teacher I can respect I become a "perfect student".

    I rarely study for my exams and I don’t listen in the lessons (mostly because subjects – especially math – are too easy to me), but somehow I manage to get really good grades. That seems to make me even more scary – as if "mind reading", everlasting smile and my looks (reddish eyes + pale skin) weren’t enough. Sometimes people call me a vampire because of that…

  57. crystal says:

    I am a 40'ish INTJ female in Phoenix, and work in the IT world.  This is the first time that I've posted.   There are a lot more of us out here than I expected.  With respect to men, I married an ISTJ who is an intellectual equal.  I gravitate to men who are highly intelligent, so have found married life very satisfying.   I am closer to middle of the road on the I and N categories, but rate a "perfect" 30 on thinking.   One of my biggest frustrations is working with people who are not logical.  

  58. Personality psychologist says:

    Actually, the most rare personality type is INFJ.  With an estimated 1% of the entire population.  INTJ is just above at 1.5%.  

    INFJ-

    The entire male population consists of roughly .5%

    The entire female population consists of and estimated 1.5%

    INTJ-

    Of the entire male population is 2.5%, while the entire female population is .5%.  

    Overall, for males, most rare is INFJ, and for females the most rare is INTJ.  In general, INFJ is consistently most rare.

    Not that this is extremely important, but just for the truth to be known. Maybe in 2007, when this was originally posted, the INTJ was least common.  But today it is INFJ.

  59. INTP says:

    I say you do have stuff to be proud about (INTJs) my father is one, and a lot of admirable people on history have been same as you, but even though it is a rare type and one of the best intelectual leading personalities (if i had to change my type it would be either you or ISTP maybe) INTJ is not the less frequent type at all, or the smallest percentage of the population, its INFJ (no guys, im not one of this type either), descriptions make them look like spirtual gurus and jung said about them "creative, smart, focus on fantasy more than reality, attracted to sad things, fears doing the wrong thing, observer, avoidant…"

    (most of the guys and girls writting on this blog are teens who havent yet found who they are, and thats a fact, not a speculation…if you are not one of these, youre cool)

    just a comment from an INTP cousin of yourse 😉

  60. Ashe says:

    I’m an INTJ-Sagittarius female. I’ve been searching for a few weeks now for an overlap in this particular pairing, but I constantly run into dead ends – it’s either one or the other, never a blend of both.

    It’s very relieving to find that I even HAVE a type, though. I grew up in a family of six children, all of which are extremely extroverted. Meanwhile, I am nothing along the lines of a ‘social butterfly’. All my life I’ve felt left out of things, like life was one big inside joke that I didn’t get. It was only a few years ago that I started thinking that this was never going to change. Instead of fighting it and trying to figure out why I didn’t fit in with the social ‘norm’, I took a new approach to see if things would change: I just started not caring about what people thought of me. I said and did whatever I was comfortable with, content that this was how I handled and reacted to life. Self-searching and understanding how and why I do things is and will always be my longest quest I think, but don’t think I don’t try to figure out why other people do what they do.

    I’m going to school to be a doctor of psychology, and the study of personality and what motivates people to do things, how they think and react to stimuli interests me. I will probably do some research on personality and star sign partnership/blending for my thesis at some point.

  61. tensai says:

    @Deva

    thank you so much for writing this…you’ve just read my life out as well… sigh….I don’t know whether its good to be an INTJ… i hate being able to read ppl…but still insensitive…you know? And I get bored of ppl sooo easily… Anyway, I just want to say how scarily identical your situation is to mine…ahaha math, stupid subject, never does hw or listen in class but ACE! LOL and the smiling and mind-reading and everything else..gosh..shake hands.

  62. tensai says:

    @amy

    I know, i’m so glad I found INTJ communities where I can finally relate to people!

    And gosh I hate small talks so much I want to run into a wall. I just like to talk DEEP and meaningful, and I’m not even pretending! I hate it when people think we’re snobby and arrogant and whatnot, its not that, it’s just we’re not interested in stupid mundane things. Yes everyday life and gossip we notice and keep in mind, but we don’t want to talk about it. I rarely ‘talk’ to people since usually I find it a waste of time.

    I agree with you on the point that ‘nobody’ seems good enough for me. I see everybody around me having this crush and that, and I’m just so out of it… It’s so…stupid? Yes, and pointless. And when you try to talk to people saying that you think superficial flings in high school are stupid, people tell you that you’re just jealous because you’re not getting any… but seriously! people just don’t understand, (because most of them are not INTJ) pfft. I’d rather concentrate on study and finding a good career, settle down, mature, and then maybe look out for someone I think of as ‘competent’.

    But I guess the good thing is that even though most of us INTJs know we’re different, we’re not too worried about not fitting in. So that’s a good thing. Cos I don’t give a damn about conformity. Screw that.   (no drugs, no booze, don’t go to parties and I’m proud of it 🙂 )

  63. TigerMc says:

    I’m also INTJ, female, and Aries (for what it’s worth).  I’ve taken the test numerous times, even years apart, and I always come out the same (though as I age, my J has started to approach the midline).  When I first discovered this whole thing, I read that INTJ’s tend to date around, but when they’re ready to get married, they seek out another INTJ.  That’s been pretty accurate in my case.  I’ve been married now for 20+ years to a fellow INTJ.  

    Blessing or Curse?  I think it just IS.  My mother was great when I was in high school and feeling isolated and "weird."  Her response was always, "do you really WANT to be like everyone else??"  And she was right.  

    Finding a career isn’t really a problem, but you will probably have to learn to develop your P when necessary.  I call that ‘flexing to the middle,’  and while you may not choose to do it in social contexts, in the professional context, it would probably be wise to learn.  I’m not talking about changing who you are; I’m talking about respecting who others are, and being the one (when necessary) to be accommodating.  It might be called maturity, or social skills, or just plain good manners.  But it doesn’t come easily.  When I was in high school, I just felt on the outside.  When I was in college, I eschewed the more ‘common’ types.  In grad school, I secretly wished I could be more socially engaging.   Now I engage when I want to or need to, and don’t when I don’t.  And with that, I’ve learned to value all the other types for what they bring to the table, and to the relationship.

    My husband and I have a best friend couple who are both ENTJ’s.  I joke that they love to talk, and we’re happy to listen.

  64. I Do Not Want To says:

    I’m an INTJ Scorpio woman. I’m also a life path 9 – born on 11/11. All things considered, my life so far has been one of extremes. I vary from deep depression and alienation to a state of self that is giving, loving, and open. I am stuck between a desire to change the world for the better and be a complete humanitarian, and the dread for the world – a bitter wish to abandon it. Sometimes it leaves me empty and aching on this inside.  

    I enjoy being and INTJ, though. I like having long, meaningful conversations; hearing someone’s problems and accurately analyzing the situation is always very satisfying. To me, life is full of things to analyze and understand, observe and learn from. Psychology and philosophy is so interesting! X3 The world is such a thought-provoking place….gosh I love it.

    I am a passionate socialite AND a reclusive ponderer. However, I am most happy when I find a balance.

    你們知道嗎?  

  65. Lucia says:

    Hey! so I have taken the test twice on different occasions and have come up with INTJ twice, so I think that’s what I am ^.^ It’s interesting that INTJ women are so rare, I didn’t think it would be rare at all. I am also a Taurus which may play into this whole scenario that is my life 🙂 I’m glad to see all of you fellow INTJ-ers!

  66. intj capricorn. i admit that i'm among the weirdo among my colleagues. but, iam i why the only one here who was born on december?..hopefully not

    btw, to all intj, i feel very happy and relief to know there are also other identical type of me on the other planet. previously, i thought was like a "scyzho" patient.

    may we get connected and understand each other even more

    and kindly visit my blog if you are free ^_^

  67. intj capricorn. i admit that i'm among the weirdo among my colleagues. but, iam i why the only one here who was born on december?..hopefully not

    btw, to all intj, i feel very happy and relief to know there are also other identical type of me on the other planet. previously, i thought was like a "scyzho" patient.

    may we get connected and understand each other even more

    and kindly visit my blog if you are free ^_^

  68. Cas says:

    I'm INTJ and Libra. Most people don't know what to make of me. Would like a relationship with another INTJ or an INTP.

  69. ~~~ says:

    i am a female scorpio intj seems still seeking a lost self at late 30s after nearly a decade of life trans across almost opposite cultural (of my own opinion might be wrong though) societies which experiences get me more confused about my identity…wish i am not this type who knows that could make a spiritually calmer little world for me?

  70. Phish says:

    Interesting that so many INTJ ladies here have also identified their astrology sign.  Must be part of trying to understand the way we tick.  I've consistently tested INTJ over the past thirty years.  I haven't had much trouble with relating to men, but women ICK.  It took a long time to learn that generally when a women complains about a problem, she isn't looking for an answer just sympathy.  Being INTJ I look for a solution — the operative — does it work? has been my motto for years and yes, I have been accused of being cold and remote just because I don't GUSH like other women.

  71. april says:

    INTJ+Aries+Woman

  72. ASB says:

    I AM INTJ/ARIES AND HAVE JUST FOUND OUT AND READ ABOUT IT, I ALWAYS WONDERED IF IT WAS NORMAL FOR ME TO WANT TO BE ALONE ALL THE TIME.  I GUESS IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!

  73. jay says:

    @ashe – I am also INTJ/Sag.  Have you found more information on this pairing yet?

  74. KP says:

    Curious if there are any other female INTJ / Virgos out there??

  75. Denise says:

    I am an 18 year old intj libra. Ive been through a lot in my life,i know a lot of people say this,but i seriously have! I think my life experience and sense of logic makes it very difficult to relate to people in my age group. I can stand illogical ignorant people! To me a lot of what they do is irresponsible and irrational. So ive always related and gotten along better with adults. I dont know how "normal" this is but prefer mature and intellectual conversations.

  76. Denise says:

    I am an 18 year old female who is an intj libra. Ive been through a lot in my life,i know a lot of people say this,but i seriously have! I think my life experience and sense of logic makes it very difficult to relate to people in my age group. I can stand illogical ignorant people! To me a lot of what they do is irresponsible and irrational. So ive always related and gotten along better with adults. I dont know how "normal" this is but prefer mature and intellectual conversations.

  77. Denise says:

    I am an 18 year old female who is an intj libra. Ive been through a lot in my life,i know a lot of people say this,but i seriously have! I think my life experience and sense of logic makes it very difficult to relate to people in my age group. I can stand illogical ignorant people! To me a lot of what they do is irresponsible and irrational. So ive always related and gotten along better with adults. I dont know how "normal" this is but prefer mature and intellectual conversations.

  78. Dagny says:

    I enjoy being INTJ for the most part, other than how irritating it is waiting for others to catch up!

  79. Gloria says:

    I am an INTJ Aries also…I loved the comment about "how irritating it is waiting for others to catch up"…I go from A to E and then have to remember to connect the A-B-C-D-E for eveyone else!!!

  80. I'm an INTJ  woman.   Didn't know it was rare.

  81. I'm an INTJ  woman.   Didn't know it was rare.

  82. TSewell says:

    I'm an INTJ and sometimes I feel like if the whole world could think like me it would make life so much easier. Sometimes when I'm at work I feel isolated like no one understands me. It doesn't make me sad or anything but I can see they have misunderstood me and it get's frustrating. I'm a Libra Woman! I'm proud to be an INTJ I always knew their was something different about me and it makes me feel special knowing that we are a rare breed indeed!

  83. fruitblast says:

    I'm an intj girl and I've always felt a little different when I'm hanging around friends, even though I adapt and adjust to different groups of people. If i just be myself and do what I like to do, people think I'm a little weird/crazy. I love designing things and drawing, and I'm very loyal and enthusiastic for the things I enjoy doing. Like a bunch of you here, there's many times when I find that I say something and people around me to understand what I mean.. it feels nice to know I'm not the only one. And like many of you, I believe the world is a very thought-provoking place. I think about my actions and consequences and other people alot, and I'm always trying to become a better person.