The mystery of the other girlfriend


Many of my married friends have "other girlfriends", or at least that's how their wives tease them.

I don't know for certain, but if you ask my wife, she'll probably say that my "other girlfriend" is this Web site.

Comments (32)
  1. John says:

    I guess that makes us voyeurs.

  2. gkdada says:

    I know what you mean.

    My wife claims she is my third wife. First and Second are ‘books’ and ‘computers’, respectively.

  3. A. Skrobov says:

    wow, the first time Raymond mentions his wife on this website

    [This comment is exactly the reason I was reluctant to mention her in the past. -Raymond]
  4. tsrblke says:

    FWIW, my Fiancee says my other Girlfriend is my Xbox, especially when new games come out.  Which is very interesting, because when I bought Oblivion, I could pry her away from it with a crowbar.  So I guess that would make the xbox both of our girlfriends?  Hmmm that’s odd.

  5. Tom says:

    <all state ad>

    You’re married!?

    </all state ad>

  6. James Schend says:

    tsrbike, that just means Oblivion is the best RPG ever.

  7. Nick says:

    If this website is your other girlfriend…

    Does that make all of us commenters your illegitimate children?

  8. Gabe says:

    Does this Web site mind that you’re cheating on her with your wife?

  9. Alexandre Grigoriev says:

    I thought you wife *is* this website.

  10. Brandon says:

    Am I the only one bothered by the fact that the image in the blog you linked to is very likely not a car in California, what with having the driver on the right-hand side?

  11. Gabe says:

    Brandon: I rationalize the unusual stock photo as having been flipped horizontally so that the driver is not facing away from the text. Your eyes are likely to follow the gaze of the person in the photo, and it is a bit distracting to have your eyes directed away from the text, so it makes sense that a graphic designer would flip the photo to look better. I personally would have made the driver look like she was in the left seat of the car and put the photo on the left side of the text.

  12. Tim Dawson says:

    Sometimes my girlfriend accuses me of having an "other girlfriend". I ask her what makes her think she’s not the other girlfriend.

  13. Mr Cranky says:

    re: The mystery of the other girlfriend

    Friday, October 02, 2009 10:34 AM by A. Skrobov

    wow, the first time Raymond mentions his wife on this website

    [This comment is exactly the reason I was reluctant to mention her in the past. -Raymond]

    WTF?

  14. ChrisR says:

    @Mr Cranky

    You seriously don’t understand?  Raymond didn’t want to mention his wife because he probably doesn’t want anyone to focus their attention towards her, and he probably doesn’t want anyone trying to guess if she’s a Microsoft employee or what not.

  15. Random832 says:

    @ChrisR fair enough but doesn’t really change that the original comment is none of those things.

  16. name withheld says:

    I have a husband and a boyfriend.  They both regard my blog as "the other other relationship".

  17. Ian Boyd says:

    We’ve always wondered if you wrote your entries during downtime at work. Or if you did it after hours.

  18. FB says:

    My wife prefers to call my other male friends ‘soul mates’ :)

  19. Eric TF Bat says:

    @ChrisR: Raymond hardly needs to worry about that.  A little logical deduction will show that, given that Raymond is a bicycling Adonis and a god among men with a mind like a sort of Microsoftian Einstein/Hawkings/Batman, it can only be the case that his wife is some kind of hypersmart uber-babe whose brains, charisma and stunning good looks are as yet unsurpassed in all of human history.  Anything else would be entirely unreasonable.

    (There you go, Raymond.  You won’t have to hide ALL the comments from your wife…)

  20. ::Wendy:: says:

    ‘Other girlfriend’? the examples given from amongst Raymond’s friends appears to mean activities that are time consuming and provide enjoyment. The gender-based description is interesting.  I wonder what ‘girlfriend’ means that differentiates it from something not gender centric.  ‘Name witheld’ uses the term ‘relationship’ after ‘husband’ and ‘boyfriend’.  Are terms like ‘love’ or ‘paasion’ inappropriate?  My friends generally have several core loves, passions, and it is always good to hear them talk about their passions even if they are circuit boards or software code.  

    Does the term ‘other girlfriend’ imply that there is something wrong with having this other passion?  Many socieites promote a single family unit with a fremal-male relationship that are commited to monogomy for live (e.g. Christian).  To have an other ‘girlfirend in this model might imply inappropriate behaviour. Was conveying the hint of inappropriate behaviour part of Raymonds intended message?

    Other ‘girl friend’ rather than other ‘woman’. Why a girl rather than a woman?  Is the lack of maturity of the other love and important part of the meaning?

    How do single people play into this model of relationships?  Do Raymond’s single friends have ‘other girlfriends’?

    Did Raymond even give the choice of the gender-centricity of the term a second thought?  For example,  

    1) its the term my friends use so it’s the one I used,  

    2) the gender-specification is a good lead towards introducing my wife within my blog

    3) since some of the other girlfriends are ‘male’ and ‘inanimate objects’ they themselves have no gender so using the phrase in this blanket fashion demonstrates that it’s application in non-gender-specific so it is ok to use

    4) using a ‘other boyfriend’ as a potentially provocative device for commenters – Raymonds ‘other boyfriend’!

    Time for a good cup of tea and some promiscusous engagement with my passions,  all of which are ‘other’ to each other

    [I think you’re thinking about this way too much. 5) It’s the term used by my friends’ wives. Says so right there in the opening sentence. -Raymond]
  21. Merus says:

    So Raymond is married to Summer Glau?

    I’m not helping am I.

  22. Lazbro says:

    I’m surprised there isn’t a post laden with watts, dollar signs, temperature readings and 3DMark scores yet.

    Come on, some of you must be under 25!

    As for the wife, I think it’s more to avoid ‘omg b00bz plzzzz!8!’ type comments from the juvenile scum community.

  23. ::Wendy:: says:

    my boyfriends says that thinking too much is my other girlfriend.  It’s fun  ;-)

  24. Accatagon says:

    I’m under 25. . . I don’t have much to add to a post involving marriage.

  25. tsrblke says:

    @::Wendy::

    It’s worth noting that in my experience with this phrase the "gender" of the object/hobby recieving description is fitted to the person.  So my "Other Girlfriend" may be my Xbox, but my Fiancee’s "other Boyfriend" is her books (a Small public Library’s worth.)  We’ve alwas used it to cover any activity/hobby that takes a noticable amount of time.  (Kinda like girl/boyfriends)

  26. Cheong says:

    > [This comment is exactly the reason I was reluctant to mention her in the past. -Raymond]

    Emmm… I think that’s simply because of the fact that you haven’t mention her in years here…

    Larry Osterman, on the other hand, mentions his wife a lot in his blog (actually his wife also goes there), and proves that mentioning wife in blog doesn’t necessary attracts that kind of reactions…

    [The hard part is transitioning from “I’m going to keep my private life out of this blog” to a “I’m going to share some of my private life with this blog” without drawing attention. I think the deal is that once you pick a side, you’re stuck with it. -Raymond]
  27. Mike says:

    Hmm, in that framework my wife woould probably consider my camera to be my "other girlfriend", which I suppose would also then imply that my girlfriend has been known to take picture of my wife whilst in various states of undress….

  28. Neil (SM) says:

    >[This comment is exactly the reason I was reluctant to mention her in the past. -Raymond]

    OK, so Raymond hadn’t mentioned his wife because many of his readers would express surprise to find out he had a wife.  And those readers were surprised because Raymond had not mentioned her before.

  29. oliver says:

    Reminds me of a (German) saying stating "the man’s only true mistress is his work" :-)

    [Btw. is it only me, or does the captcha image not work in Firefox or Konqueror? Requesting http://blogs.msdn.com/blogs/JpegImage.aspx only gives a "We are currently unable to serve your request" error page]

  30. Name required says:

    > OK, so Raymond hadn’t mentioned his wife because many of his readers would express surprise to find out he had a wife.  And those readers were surprised because Raymond had not mentioned her before.

    To put it even more clearly:

    OK, so Raymond hadn’t mentioned his wife because many of his readers would express surprise that Raymond had not mentioned her before.

  31. R. Bemrose says:

    > [Btw. is it only me, or does the captcha image not work in Firefox or Konqueror? Requesting http://blogs.msdn.com/blogs/JpegImage.aspx only gives a "We are currently unable to serve your request" error page]

    Works fine on Firefox 3.0.x here.  Yes, I know 3.5.x is out now, but we haven’t gotten approved to deploy it yet.

  32. Andrew from Vancouver says:

    My wife teases me that "my girlfiend" is the nice lady who owns the Vietnamese restaurant close to our house. The owner does indeed dote on me, and she notices when I’ve not been there in a while. If I look tired, she scolds me for working too hard.

    The restaurant has a generic name, so my wife never remembers the name, and has settled on "let’s go to your girlfriend’s for pho and banh mi".

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