18 years ago, Today.

Editors Note: You knew this was coming Dear πŸ™‚

Eighteen years ago today, on January 17th, 1987, at the Scarsdale Synagogue - Tremont Temple, Valorie Lynne Holden and Lawrence William Osterman were married.  I still have a laminated copy of our wedding announcement from the local paper in Albany, NY:


  Plans for a Jan. 17 wedding are being made by Miss Valerie Lynn Holden and Lawrence William Osterman.  The bride-to-be is the daughter of Patricia Holden of Annapolis, Md and her fiancé is the son of Melvin H. Osterman, Darnley Greene, Delmar, and Elaine P. Osterman of Scarsdale, Westchester County.  Miss Holden is a student at George Mellon University, Pittsburgh, Pa.  Her fiancé is a senior computer programming engineer with Microsoft Corp., Redmond, Wash.

Never mind the spelling errors (it's Valorie not Valerie) and the factual errors in the piece (there's no George Mellon University), I still treasure that scrap of paper.

Valorie and I started dating back in October of 1982 (we came out of the closet and announced our couplehood while working as roadies on a Clash concert.

Valorie's stuck with me for well 20 years now, through business trips to Europe (I left on one 36 hours after we returned from our honeymoon), six months where I commuted between Redmond and Austin Tx - Monday-Wednesday in Austin, Thursday-Sunday in Redmond.

She's been there through the entire lifetime NT 3.1, with all its ups and downs, she was there for Exchange 4.0, 5.0, 5.5, and 2000, and she's still there.

She's been there through the birth of our children Daniel and Sharron.

She's been there through nine different cats (four currently), countless tropical fish, a dog, and two horses.

She's nursed me through a debilitating back injury.

She's put her own career ambitions on hold for our family, only now, twelve years later, going back to school for her teachers certificate.  She's spent countless hours in our children's classrooms making a difference for every child in those classrooms.  

She's been there for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, for fatter, for thinner, in sickness and in health.

'Til death do we part.


Happy Anniversary, Valorie.

I love you.


Comments (22)

  1. Julie Lerman says:

    roadies for the Clash? Are you kidding? Super duper kewel. I remember when they played in NYC in the mid 80’s. I went one night and then talked the lighting guy into getting me tickets to see them again the next night. (No I didn’t have to do any special favors).

    Oh and happy anniversary. πŸ™‚

  2. mschaef says:

    Happy anniversary!

  3. Sriram says:

    Congratulations πŸ™‚

  4. Yup, Roadies for the Clash – Valorie and I worked on the CMU Activities Board Technical Committee (ABTech), and we acted as local roadies for the bands coming into town.

    We announced we were dating at the big homecoming concert, which happened to be a Clash concert (pretty good one too).

  5. Edward says:

    Congratulations to you both!

  6. JD says:

    Wow! This is awesome! I am feeling so good to know about a sweet and caring heart behind a hardcore geek! I and my girlfriend are now seeing each other for 2 years and we plan to marry soon. I hope that our marriage also turns out success like yours! πŸ™‚

    Congratulations to you and Valorie!


  7. Many congratulations to the both of you!

  8. Congratulations πŸ™‚

    PS: The Clash rocks!

  9. > She’s been there through the birth of our

    > children Daniel and Sharron.

    Don’t tell me Microsoft is working on a way to make that optional ^_^

    > Never mind the spelling errors

    Sure. One time the city of St. Catharine’s used ballots with their city name misspelled. They had contracted to a US printer to print the ballots and didn’t have time to get corrections so they had to never mind.

  10. > She’s been there through the entire lifetime NT 3.1, with all its ups and downs, she was there for Exchange 4.0, 5.0, 5.5, and 2000, and she’s still there.

    This had me cracking up.. Interesting Time line to compare πŸ™‚


  11. Erwin Blonk says:

    Happy anniversary!!

    *gets the champagne*

  12. Paul says:

    It tickles me that NT and Exchange are listed before your kids. πŸ˜‰

    Congratulations, none-the-less. Not quite as embarrassing as Malda’s proposal on the front page of Slashdot, but a pretty good attempt. *grin*

  13. Paul: Yeah…. Well….

  14. Paul says:

    (Seriously, congratulations. I wasn’t trying to be funny in a nasty way there…)

  15. John M. says:

    20 years, eh. Congratulations.

  16. Dude, do you realize how long it’s been that I’ve known you guys?!?

    I miss you.

  17. Moose: More years than I care to admit? When’re you gonna come to this part of the world?

  18. The Wife says:

    Esther-bunny! We miss you lots! How’ve you been?

  19. I’m embarrased to say that I’ve been to Seattle twice in the past 5 years — once last year — but never had the time to visit with anyone. Once was for a conference and once was for a meeting for a conference :).

    Some day I’d like to come out and just _visit_ people. I know lots of folk up there now and it’s be nice to see folks & play tourist for a bit.

    So when are YOU guys coming back to Da Boigh? The younger Techies are always bugging me to convince "Ghosts" to come back for CarnEvil.

    [also, was The Clash "Cleanliness is Next To Reggae"? ]

  20. I think it was Gang of Four was "cleanliness is next to reggae"

  21. Mike says:

    Congratulations from a Clash fan living in Delmar, NY.

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