Roughest 6 months

I haven’t written for a little bit.I will soon. I don’t know if it’s at all obvious from anything here but it’s been an incredibly rough 6 months for me. I may write about it, I may not. I lost 2 people I loved this year (one last week). I don’t like the idea of anyone feeling sorry for me, but my heart is aching. And I’m tired from that. And I am incredibly fortunate to have had two such loving people in my life, I know. But everything I feel is at the surface right now.

I know that people lose people, but seeing someone you love die from a broken heart is really painful. I’m not going to share any more right now. It’s been interesting living my life as a blogger the past few years and sharing a part of my life here. I haven’t shared much of my family life and that has been intentional; that’s private for me. But right now, the private part if making it hard for me to do the sharing part. I’ll be back. But at a time when I would normally be thinking through something to post here, I’m just not up to it.

Please be patient with me 😉

Comments (16)

  1. I’m sorry to hear about your loss.  I hope to see you heal soon, and that we see you back again.

  2. Bad_Brad says:

    Heather – know that you’re in my thoughts and prayers.  I don’t blame you at all for keeping your private life private, you need not feel any pressure to share it in a forum like this, unless you feel that doing so would be somehow cathartic for you.  At any rate, I’m sorry to hear about your loss, and know that you’ve got friends out there thinking of you.  🙂

  3. HeatherLeigh says:

    Thanks both of you!

  4. crawdad13 says:


    I know this won’t, in any way, take the place of the losses that you have suffered recently but I just thought you could use some good news…

    You know how you had given me som eadvice recently regarding my resume and the particular difficulties I have had getting an interview so I could explain why there are a couple of issues stemming from my having been an entrepreneur and consultant for so long that, on the surface, recruiters might be worried about?  

    Well… I made the changes we talked about and fired off a couple of resumes to recruiters; these are positions for which I had applied in the past.  I got interviews for both of them.  Both are great jobs, both pay pretty well.  I figure a few years in either of these jobs and I should have an even better story to tell MS.  I don’t know if I’ll get either of them, but at least I broke through that first barrier which has been tough for me.

    You give a lot through your blog and have really given me some important direction and motivation over the last couple of years.  I’m sure your your family members- all of them – are proud of you and would be even more so if tey knew all of the people you help just by sharing a little bit of yourself with us.

    Thanks for all your help and I hope that in these tough times this brings some light.

  5. Wine-Oh says:


    Sorry to hear about your loss and your rough few months. Sometimes its great to think about the good times with that person as a way to feel good. Your readers will be patient and check back from time to time for a new post. Take the time you need, and when it feels right, you will know.

  6. HeatherLeigh says:

    crawdad13 – that is great news! Glad you made those changes. And of course, I hope my family is proud of me 🙂

    Wine-Oh, thanks!

  7. deb says:

    first, i am so very sorry for your loss.  (there’s never any real ‘right’ thing to say at these times, is there?)

    second, i so totally get what you’re talking about!  i’ve had some stuff going on the past few months — the past month in particular.  so while i was chugging right along with the blog and it was growing, i suddenly hit this place where i needed to be very quiet in the real world — and i couldn’t force myself to write if i tried.   so i just didn’t.  or i did very little.  and that’s okay.

    it’ll come back.  and you’ll be back.  and we’ll all still be here.

    in the meantime, some of us are always only an email away if you need anything or do need to vent or talk or write or….whatever…..feel free.

    you’ll be in my prayers.

    all the best,


  8. Andy says:

    I sent you an e-mail.

    Peace be with you while you deal with these things.

  9. Emily says:

    Heather — not to be deputy downer, but I went through my own rough patch with a string of painful and unexpected losses, and I know it takes time to recover … sometimes more time than you wish it did. It sounds like your response is really normal for such a grievous time. Even though your days, on average, get to a "new normal" eventually, it is incredible how hard it can be, especially if you feel your job requires having a lot of energy for other people. Be easy with yourself and know that it may take you awhile to regain the strength to do things you might have previously taken for granted. It’s been two and a half years now, and while it’s better, it’s also different and still hard sometimes. Which isn’t to say that memories of these people don’t give me pleasure every day. They do, and without those I’d have suffered a far more terrible loss. Also, people think they know and maybe they don’t — maybe I don’t. Anyway, I’ll be thinking of you.

  10. DanF says:

    Hi Heather,

    I just wanted to add another supportive voice, my RSS reader is tuned in, so whenever you’re back in action I’ll be reading. In the mean time I hope each day only gets better for you. Thanks for everything you’ve shared with us to date. Take Care! -D

  11. Michelle says:


    I just want you to know you’re not alone. Personally, I’ve hated 2007 and am looking anxiously towards 2008. I have had two close deaths in the last 5 weeks, so I think I understand how you are feeling. Emily, above, mentions the new normal, and I hope it comes sometime. Right now I wear sadness like a scratchy wool blanket.

    I had to attend a conference this week, to present. It’s very hard. But I find keeping busy is a helpful distraction.

    Take all the time you need to heal and don’t forget to take care of yourself through it all.

    Many warm thoughts to you and yours…

  12. HeatherLeigh says:

    All of these kind words really help.  I needed them. THANK YOU ALL!

  13. tod hilton says:

    So sorry to hear about your losses.  It’s never easy, but if you need someone to listen or grab lunch with give me a holler.  You definitely helped me out a lot last year during my life trials!  I’ll be sending lots of positive thoughts your way!  Take care of yourself.

  14. HeatherLeigh says:

    thanks tod!

  15. marilyn parrett says:

    dear heather,

    i am so sorry for your loss.  your note brought tears to my eyes.  it is difficult to lose the ones we love.  grieving is a  painful process and it definitely catches us off guard.  it is personal.  i feel your pain.

    i want you to know that thru your blog you are impacting the impression of Microsoft positively, as well.  your insights are spot on and so helpful!  thank you.  

    please take time to heal, and know that you are in my  thoughts and prayers.


  16. HH was catching up on your blog when I read this post.   I too had a rough summer- lost my dad at the most hectic point of my life.  

    Words dont help your loss but they should affirm the value of your blogging; Community is really the only thing we have to fight the big suck of inevitable death for all.