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Etiquette Hell


Comments (47)

  1. Eric Newton says:

    omg my eyes hurt after reading white text on black background.

    i think my epilepsy is kicking in now

  2. nancy coons says:

    When is the proper time to get up and leave the breakfast lunch or dinner table,whether it be with your spouse and childen and or company

  3. WANDA says:

    My cousin is having an adoption party for her 3 sons that her present husband is adopting. What kind of gift would you give in this case?

    I appreciate your feedback….

  4. Linda says:

    My daughter is getting married and she wants to send invitations for the rehersal and rehersal dinner. what type of invitation would that be?

  5. colleen says:

    Our boss is getting married for the second time what is the right thing to do regarding a shower??

  6. Laurie says:

    We work with a lovely, intelligent woman who wears too much perfume. Not the cheap stuff, but the good stuff that lasts all day long. The guy in the cubicle next to her sometimes gets dizzy from it. She is a "superior" to us and we need a diplomatic way to tell her without offending her too much. Help!

    Thanks,

    Laurie

  7. Sue says:

    My coworker received a pay raise despite the fact that lately he has not been doing his work. Instead, I have been asked to pick up his slack, so to speak, and now I feel like I should also receive a raise. How can I approach my boss about this?

    Help me….

    Poor and overworked

  8. When making a request in writing I usually say "would you kindly" I need a replacement phrase.

    Thanks

    Sandee Tuggle

  9. kbrown@mfllaw.com says:

    What is the proper language to use in asking your co-workers to support your child’s fundraiser?

  10. E Allen says:

    When is it too late to send thank you notes for flowers, food, etc. after a funeral?

  11. cyndi says:

    should i be offended if 2 brothers and neighbors i invited to my son’s 5th b-day did not bring a gift and should i invite them to the next one???

  12. Chilihead says:

    How do I politely tell friends, family and co-workers that I don’t want any presents for my birthday?y

  13. ann says:

    What is most polite way to suggest "not" bringing gifts to an adult birthday party?

  14. dawn says:

    Do you send thank you card for sympathy cards sent to you after a death?

  15. We’ve changed the location of our wedding. How do we word a note to be sent to our guest to let them know?

  16. Vanessa says:

    Miss Manners,

    Is it considered inappropriate to have children type thank you notes instead of handwriting them. My son gets very frustrated when handwriting thank you notes and tends to make many mistakes. He is a fantastic typist for a 10 year old and this method seems to go more smoothly as he is faster at getting his thank you notes out. I allow him to type his notes for his ninth birthday, because of his overall frustration, but have wondered if others would overlook the typical manners policy since he typed his own and they were in his own words. Thank you for your response.

    Vanessa

  17. stella says:

    How do you eat grapes in a fruit salad? this is urgent!

  18. rainlion says:

    Okay – possibly (probably) cheesy question – but if I get divorced could/should I ask for the wedding ring back?

  19. Miller says:

    IF you are asked to a baby shower at the last minute and do not plan to go. Should you still get a gift for the mother to be?

  20. Mr. Manners says:

    Is it appropriate to post questions on somebody’s web page, without even spending a fraction of a second trying to figure out what the page is really about?

  21. bennie says:

    please help me miss manners,

    whats the correct way to word a response to people in the comments section of your website who seem to be so far off-topic its worth posting about there comments for humour value?

  22. jenny says:

    Is a floral arrangement appropriate as a birthday gift? What am I supposed to feel?

  23. Gail says:

    What amount of money would you suggest for a weding present?

  24. bugtank says:

    HI.

    what is the proper way of telling a high-level architect that his choices are bunk?

    What am i supposed to feel?

  25. Joyce says:

    What should an adult do if they accidently pass gas in a public situation?

  26. Rita Pesano says:

    Who can give a shower? Is it proper for a parent to give a wedding or baby shower for her child?

  27. Mary Robertson says:

    The boyfriend gave me a beautiful ring and necklance combo – however, I wish to wear the ring all the time – since it is not a formal engagement right – what finger do you wear the ring upon? Is wearing it on your ring finger inapproprite?

  28. Brian says:

    Is it appropriate for the Groom to attend a bridal shower at the end to thank the guests for attending (BTW – all girl shower)

  29. LU says:

    PLEASE ADVISE ME AS TO THE FOREIGN METHOD OF EATING IN THE U.S.A. WHY HAVE WE CHANGED THE WAY OUR GOOD MANNERS WERE DICTATED AND WERE TAUGHT IN THE SCHOOLS YEARS AGO HAVE CHANGED FOR SOME?

    I AM REFERRING TO THE TWO FISTED METHOD I SEE IN RESTAURANTS. I THINK I HEARD THIS IS EUROPEAN. IT REALLY IS A DISGUSTING WAY TO EAT AS IT APPEARS THE PERSON CAN’T GET THE FOOD ON THEIR FORKS AND INTO THEIR MOUTHS QUICK ENOUGH. WHAT HAPPENED TO CUTTING YOUR MEAT AND SUCH WITH A KNIFE IN YOUR RIGHT HAND AND RETURNING THE FORK TO THE RIGHT PLACING THE KNIFE ON THE EDGE OF YOUR PLATE?

    I WISH PEOPLE COULD WATCH THEMSELF EATING THIS UNCOUTH WAY.

    WHY HAS THIS BECOME ACCEPTABLE? THIS IS AMERICA.

  30. Paul says:

    My Mother-in-Law never lets us know in advance when she is coming to visit. She says that since we are family, it is not necessary. She says that she welcomes visitors at her home at any time and so should we. Is she right? If not, how can we get her to stop showing up at our front door whenever she likes?

  31. Barb Crane says:

    Do you send thank you notes for sympathy cards received for the death of a relative?

    Thank you

  32. Ken says:

    Recently I made a bracket for a neighbor that was concerned about the secrurity of his car in his garage. We are good friends and we have done things back and forth for each other for years. I am unemployed but I am doing okay financially right now and when I was finished with the bracket, he passed an envelope to me. Inside was an amount twenty to thirty times the value of the bracket. What do I do? Accept it or try to graciously decline the money? we’ve never exchanged money for our favors before. Any help would be appreciated.

  33. Sharon says:

    I have been invited to the wedding of my son’s friend. My husband and I have decided to give them a monetary gift, however, I’m not sure what would be the appropriate amount. Any help would be appreciated.

  34. Betty says:

    I am invited to my nephew’s engagement party. Currently they are living with each other and I wasn’t sure what type of gift would be appropriate. Should I get something off their register or give them cash? How much should you spend? This is my first engagement party. Could you please help me.

  35. JESS says:

    Miss manners, my parents 25th aniversary is coming up and I would like to invite family and friends to meet us for a nice dinner, and I am a college student currently and can not pay for all of the bill how can I invite them and have them pay for their own dinners.?

  36. ALBERT R MORTON says:

    My sixteen year old daughter just broke up with her eighteen year old boyfriend. It is just before her birthday. The breakup was nasty and he can’t seem to let go and he wants to give her a birthday gift through a mutual friend. My question is, should she accept the gift or turn it down. I advised her not to accept the gift. How say you?

  37. jbes says:

    a little over a month ago I cleared a date with five couples to have our annual clambake. They all were available on the one date so we hired a chef and help. Today, I just happenned to see one of the the ladies. She mentioned to me that she never wrote down the date of the clambake and asked what day were we planning on having it. I responded with the date and in turn she said, "Oh no, I just responded to another event on that particular date and we will not be able to attend your lobster bake." To say the least, I was disappointed. But it doesn’t end there. Next, she tells me the event is for some people, that in the past, she has told me are very disengenuious(fake)and not her type of people. I know this event(made up of high profile people) could be more glamourous than a yearly clambake but she did clear that date with me first. What I want to know is if I should say something to her. I don’t want her to think that if something "better" comes along she can change plans. If it was just a dinner date, so what. This yearly dinner party that I plan I feel is a little different. I considered her to be a good friend. What should I do?

  38. tipping for take out says:

    Miss Manners,

    is it standard to tip 10-15% when a food order is carry out (you order an entre at the bar to take home…..What is the appropriate percentage to tip the waiter that orders your food)

    Marsha

  39. Diego says:

    CHeck this out! I cannot believe it works!

  40. lisa navone says:

    I am getting married for the first time, it is my fiances 2nd time. We live together and have most all we need. How do we ask for money in lieu of gifts. We really only need a larger car. Help, thank you lisa

  41. confused says:

    I work in a small office (approx 20 people). One employee is getting a surprise birthday party given to her on an upcoming weekend, but not everyone was invited. Some have now heard about it & are hurt they’re not invited. In an office this small should you invite everyone, to spare hurt feelings, or is it ok to just invite certain ones?

  42. Connie K says:

    Is it proper to send baby shower invitations to family that live out of town and most likely will not be able to attend?