A Personal Note

I had a very productive professional week. Angus Logan and I delivered 6 sessions in the span of 4 days in 2 different countries: New Zealand and Australia. We also met several partners and customers and did a press interview. The long flight to the region was definitely worth it from a professional perspective.

Unfortunately, while my week was very productive professionally, on the personal side things weren’t so well. Just before my trip, I heard news from my family that my dog wasn’t feeling well. For those of you who haven’t had a pet, this may not mean a lot. For those of you who have, I’m sure you understand. My dog is 18 years old and someone who I’ve spent a large portion of my life with. Along with my parents and sister, he’s been one of the few constants in my life having travelled all over the world with us.

I was seriously considering cancelling my trip to the region… but after speaking w/ my family, everything looked OK. Now, as I’m about to leave Sydney to go back to Seattle, I just learned that things are not good at all and my sister’s words over IM gave me a really sick feeling: “i just wanted you to know… “.. everything else was a blur. In any case, things are degrading and it doesn’t look like he has much time. The worst part here is that there’s no happy ending… you can’t fight old age. And even though he’s lived a great life, it’s our selfishness that makes us really sad. I immediately booked my flight from Seattle to the east coast mid-next week so I could be there for my family.

I’m convinced there’s nothing worse in this world than watching your own child or sibling pass away…if you’ve grown up with a pet, you’ll understand that they very much become family… and unfortunately, this can’t be avoided when the natural lifespan of an animal is significantly shorter than yours.

Anyway, this week has reminded me that there are more things important than work and technology in life… and as great as collaboration/communication technology is in the professional world, it doesn’t come nearly as close as being there for someone in the personal world.

Comments (12)

  1. Alpesh says:

    Hi Arpan,

    After our 1:1 session on Thursday, I rushed back home too! My son was not well all of last week and wasn’t any better all of Tue/Wed. My wife had to call for an ambulance on Wednesday and rush him to the hospital. She was with him all of thursday in the hospital and there was no way I could stay back… If my son wouldn’t have told me about the IV, I would have never known, since my wife did not want me to miss out on Tech.ED! I love her for this and more but you are right… there is nothing more then family. I was much relieved to see them come back home just before me.. Glad that I was back.

    Hope all goes well for you.



  2. So sorry Arpan.  An 18 year long relationship is not something that can be easily let go of and will surely be missed but hopefully always fondly remembered.  Best wishes for you and your family.

  3. Shane Perran says:

    Glad to hear TechED went well – Sorry to hear about your dog, I understand totally.

    Good luck,



  4. Sharon says:

    Hi Arpan

    I do feel for you.  I suddenly lost my best horse earlier this year – a homebred 10 year old who was the main reason holding me back from Redmond.  Now old age is about to claim his mother – a 22-year old I have owned since she was 6.  Life continues to be a great leveller, in good times and bad.  Best wishes.


  5. EROL says:

    Courage  ;+)

  6. Luca says:


    I’m so sorry and sad to read this note. Be strong as you are in this hard time …

    All the best to you and your family.

  7. Larry says:

    I lost my dog of 15 years over a year ago, and I just drempt about her again last night.  It is very difficult.  

    Don’t forget, you are a good man and your dog had a good life because of you.  That is a huge achievement and you should be proud.

  8. SandeeW says:

    Arpan:  So sorry to learn of your loss — my deepest sympathies to you and your family.  18 years, a great life I’m sure.  🙁

  9. Elly says:

    I fell for you, Arpan.  I just have my first dog (actually 2) for almost 10 months and I can certainly relate to how you feel.  Wish you best of luck.

  10. James says:

    Arpan, deepest sympathies.  As a dog owner I understand what you are going through. My childhood dog died at age 16 when I was 15 and it was very hard, my current dog is 6 years old and very much a part of the family.

    Best wishes for you and your family.

  11. Peter Menadue says:


    I understand the depth of feelings for your dog – they become part of your life.

    Best wishes.